I hope this is in the right forum so here goes.....
The wife and I are weeks away from completing the purchase of our new house and were having constant rows over lighting

I've looked all over the web for ideas and ispiration but just keep getting these lighting websites that all have tons of lighting, but nothing to really show the effects in a room of the lighting.
Bedroom:
I want to have ceiling spots in the bedroom with uplighters on the walls and the wife hits me with "I dont want it looking like a bloody office!"
In my office I want to put directional spots in the ceiling so I can adjust the direction of light if need be but not sure how many to install in a room with 11msq floor space (2.6m x 4.34m)
I was thinking either 3 in a row in the middle of the ceiling or 4 spread out in a rectangle but have no idea how this will look until its too late!
Any help in finding examples /pictures of how these things look would really be appreciated as I dont want to make holes in the new ceilings only to later think "hmmm, should have done it the other way"
Huge thanks
Richie